This was our conversation after I completed a tough, yet rewarding run today.
You’ve heard the saying that “fighters fight”, right? I take this completely to heart. If you want something bad enough, then I will always tell you to go get it. If you want to travel somewhere or take part in a new opportunity or new job, then I will tell you to go do it. You have to operate outside of your comfort zone. You getting things done has a lot less to do with intelligence and talent and a lot more to do with consistency and belief.
I’ve learned that our worst critic will always be ourselves. Our inner critics will ruin our creativity and our confidence, but we can’t let it. This is when we tell our inner critic to move aside and we push ourselves just that much harder and just that much further. I am currently training for a half marathon and I am pushing my body harder than I ever have before. This is both physically and mentally exhausting: Physically, because I am having to adjust running with a bad “runner’s knee” and mentally, because I am having to cope with, as cliche as it sounds, believing and trusting in myself and my progress. It’s tough . . . to find that confidence to believe that you are able to do something, to push yourself by yourself, to reflect on what you know that you can do better.
I told my mom today that I believe that coaching yourself is one of the hardest things in the world to do. In reality, it certainly is. You don’t have anyone pushing you to study one more page or to get out of bed one hour early or to run just one more lap. You have to do that yourself. You have to coach yourself for you and not for anyone else. Self-improvement comes from identifying your fear and facing your challenges and above all else, getting to work.
I believe that coaching yourself comes with finding yourself, too. You find your limits and you find what you can achieve at your fullest and you find more and more ways in which you grow. You soon begin to cherish your progress and the coaching not only gets easier, but it gets persistent as well.
So, yes. Fighters fight. If you want something bad enough, then go get it. If you want to travel somewhere and take part in a new opportunity or a new job, then go do it. You have to operate outside of your comfort zone. You getting things done has a lot less to do with intelligence and talent and a lot more to do with consistency and belief.